Oftentimes, we feel pressured by our desires or fears to pretend to be something we are not. While this may bring us some small amount of temporary pleasure or relief, in the larger picture it causes us immense suffering. Our most beneficial path in life is always going to be the one which arises from authenticity. If, instead, we are constantly trying to manipulate the circumstances of our life through artificiality – through covering over the real person that we are – we will be creating a life that will always feel very anxious & wrong in the deepest levels of our being.
If we want our lives to fit us properly, to be joyful, meaningful, and satisfying in all the right ways, we need to base our lives on who we actually are. No amount of trying to shove ourselves into an ill-fitting shoe of a life will ever make us happy. No matter how prestigious or cool or attractive this shoe may appear to be, we will only end up with blisters. We need a life that fits us exactly right and for that we need to know who we are.